8 Psychological Tricks you aren't Taught at School ~ The modern day wisdom

School has taught us numerous technique that we are using on a daily basis to tackle our problems and make our lives easier, right? Well obviously not.

Our educational institutions have the traditional and orthodoxical syllabus which had been created ages ago and are irrelevant in present context. Don’t get me wrong, I’m really proud to have been informed about our great ancestors, got the skills to prove R.H.S = L.H.S, was able to define cell in completely two different terms and most importantly solved the never ending mystery of x.

On a serious note, we have been deprived of the very basic psychological tricks that would have done wonder in many senarios. But don’t you worry that’s when I come to the rescue. Below I’ve mentioned some simple and yet really working psychological tricks worth trying.

1) Make Them Agree With You

If you want someone to agree with you when asking a question, slightly nod your head while doing so. In psychology its called mirroring. It means that people will be more likely to agree with you if you are sending positive affirmative signals.

2) Engrave what you study

The best way to learn and remember something is by trying to explain it to someone else. First study the material, try to memorize it and then explain. The point where you can’t fully explain the topic is the point you need to work on again. On doing so, you train your brain to focus on the difficult parts. If nobody is available for you to explain, then explain it to yourself. It works that way as well.

We tend to simplify things when explaining to others, therefore this might help you to concentrate on the most important bits of information that you wish to remember.

I personally use this trick. It is another thing that completely unprepared questions are asked in exams ( reason for my low grade..)

3) Reveal your flaws

According to the pratfall effect, people will like you more after you make a mistake but only if they believe you are a competent person. Revealing that you aren’t perfect makes you more relatable and vulnerable toward the people around you.

4) Act like you like them

Psychologist have known for a while about a phenomenon called ‘reciprocity of liking’. When we think someone likes us, we tend to like them as well.

Most recently, it was found that when we expect people to accept us, we act warmer toward them, thereby increasing the chances that they really will like us.

So even if you’re not sure how a person you’re interacting with feels about you, act like you like them and they’ll probably like you back.

5) The Mirroring Technique

You might have heard about his technique and might also have unknowingly used it. I have seen people build compassion among each other.

What you do is when you’re having a conversation with someone you want to bond, try mirroring their body language. Subtle mirroring people’s body language subconsciously makes them think you’re in sync, which works very well for building trusrt.

6) Eliminating Haters

If you think that someone doesn’t like you, try asking them for a really small favor, like borrowing their pen. If they don’t like you, then they will be inclined to say no to your request, naturally.

However, asking to borrow a pen is such a small favor, that its incredibly hard for anyone to say no to that. After accepting your request for small favor, he/she will eventually come to the conclusion that you’re okay after all.

7) Pay attention after the joke

In group settings, when everyone laughs, people will often look first at the person they like the must. This will give you interesting insight as to who in your friend group is into who.

8) The word “ But “

We often use the word “But “, probably all day long. Everybody knows that this word is a conjunction and used to join two sentences. But what people don’t know is that all the emotional weight is pounded on the sentence which follows the word “ But “.

I’ve noticed it many times that when people have mixed messages they deliver the positive one at the beginning and the negative at the end. If your goal is to provide positivity to other, this is not the way you want to do it. Ending the sentence with negative or sad points will make the person end up with sad or negative emotions no matter how positive the first message was.

For example, if your friends invite you to a movie, most people would reply;
I’d love to but I can’t make it.

The emphasis of emotions will be on the later sentence. What you can do here is that you can switch the messages like this;

I can’t make it tonight but I would love to have gone.

Here the emphasis will be on the fact that you appreciate the invitation and would have loved to go.

PS: Keep in mind this is completely different from the scenario of giving criticism. When you have to criticize people but don’t want to hurt their feeling; first give a really good compliment and then drop your criticism. Also, criticize people only when it is positive criticism and for the improvement of the other person.

Negative criticism will not only deeply effect other people but also create a negative aura of you.

Instead of using “ but “, you can also use the word “ and “.
Here’s an example;

I’d love to go and though I can’t make it, I’m glad that you invited me.

So which of these psychological tricks are you going to use once the lockdown is over. Leave a comment below.

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